I loved Jeb Bush’s comment about responsibility at the Republican Convention in Tampa. He said, “Mr. President – It is time to stop blaming your predecessor for your failed economic policies – You were dealt a tough hand, but your policies have not worked.” I’m not out for a partisan comment here, but it’s really a great illustration. What I see here is a great example of a character flaw epidemic in our culture. It’s the unwillingness to take responsibility for our own actions. In an effort to side step responsibility, we blame someone or something else for our condition or state. Blame only imprisons the blamer. When I blame someone else for my state, I am in fact admitting to a self-created bondage to the one I blame. Why place yourself in bondage to another (other than Christ)? Blame is nothing more than an excuse to live in mediocrity – less than God’s best. Did you realize truth will set you free? When you recognize your role and responsibility in your condition, you break free from the bondage of blame that holds you captive. Either your captive to the actions of another, or you choose to break loose and do something constructive about your future.
- Admit the facts.
- Own your condition. Recognize your role and contribution in your current situation. Simply stated, “It’s my fault.” Be sure and leave off the “buts” and disclaimers in the ownership otherwise you’re only renting it.
- Release others. Don’t hold them responsibility for your state. Pardon them from the obligation.
- Act for restitution. Seek to restore that which is broken or shattered and make it right. Fix or repair what you can.
- Determine what actions, behaviors, practices, values, or principles must change so that you don’t live perpetually in your current circumstances.
- Make one change. This is the action step for number four.
- Learn from the season. Itemize the lessons learned and periodically reflect upon that list. You don’t ever want to reside there again. It’s a life lesson.