Same-sex (gay) marriage is a divisive topic. Twenty-five years ago it wasn’t really on the mainstream radar. It’s become a sort of litmus test in the tolerance and diversity arguments. Local, state, and national politicians are entering into the conversation. Even President Obama weighed in with his opinion recently. It’s a huge debate and there are both theological and cultural implications to this discussion.
To the same-sex marriage proponent or idealist, please respect the viewpoint of marriage traditionalists. There are many reasons why traditional marriage is valued, viewed as sacred, and enthusiastically supported by traditionalists. These reasons span the disciplines of theology, psychology, to sociology. The endeavor to promote an alternative as equal and valid as the original only serves to devalue the former.
To the ones that rush to label themselves either homosexual or heterosexual, when did sexuality become one’s identification? Why is either the “homosexual” or “heterosexual” label the primary identifier? Is it because of society’s sexual openness and brokenness that these identifiers are so readily claimed? I personally don’t believe that one’s sexuality should be their identification. I believe it’s both too confining and even destructive. As a Christ follower, my identify is found in Jesus. The chosen Lordship of Christ in my life determines to bring my life into conformity with Christ. He becomes and is my identity as a Christ follower. My identity as a person just as yours should not be from some perceived labeled notion of sexuality.
This brings me to my next thought. How do you define homosexual? Is it a person who struggles with same-gender attraction or is it the person who acts out in same-gender attraction behavior? Just because someone struggles with same-gender attraction and in many cases acted out behaviors associated with their struggle doesn’t define them as homosexual. Be careful how quickly you label and force people into categories or lifestyles. There’s another distinction here worth noting. I believe there is a difference between someone who simply struggles with same-gender attraction, tendencies, and thoughts and the person who intentionally chooses to live out a same-gender or homosexual lifestyle. The same-gender attraction struggler doesn’t have to act out on the attractions, tendencies, or thoughts. All people (including you) have a sin-bent and struggle with aspects of disobedience. Here’s another thought along those lines, since when does acting out one’s perceived natural inclinations or sin-bent make the choice appropriate, right, and acceptable? It doesn’t! I know several men and women who struggle with same-gender attraction. Some have sought therapy and now live in a healthy heterosexual relationship. Others have chosen to live celibate lives and honor God in purity and singleness. I have a lot of respect for these men and women.
With all that said, here’s my opinion. I don’t think it bigoted, hateful, or even narrow minded, but just logical. The legitimization of same-sex marriage is a slippery slope. There are implications as well as consequences with every decision. Personally, I do not agree with the criteria and methodology used to promote and condone the legitimization of same-sex marriage. Culturally it doesn’t make sense. Theologically, as both a pastor and theologian (use that term lightly), it is contrary to an orthodox interpretation of Scripture (sacred text). Same-sex marriage just isn’t a good choice.