I guess I’m getting too old or at least old enough not to worry about the fact there are people that don’t like me. I know that’s a rough introduction, but it’s a necessary truth. Somewhere out on the preschool playground we conjured up a notion and bought a lie that everyone needs to like us. Really? Where did that come from? It finds its root in insecurity and fueled by an exhausting and obsessive search for peer acceptance. A long time ago, I realized that not everyone is going to like me and I’m good with that – really. Now to be honest here, I shouldn’t go out of my way to prove the fact that not everyone is going to like me. This isn’t permission to go out and be mean, ruthless, or disagreeable. Don’t head out intentionally creating dislikable fellows. I know Romans 12:18, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” There is a disclaimer here – as far as it depends on you. I have a responsibility to pursue peace on my end, but unfortunately you can’t control or manipulate someone else’s impression, response, or behavior. There are people that won’t like you regardless. Now repeat after me, “That’s okay!” Get over it now before it’s too late and you end up worrying yourself to death about whether someone likes you or not.
Here’s the advice. Be faithful. Live an untarnished faith. Love Jesus and follow Him regardless. Demonstrate grace, forgiveness, love, and mercy. Be patient with others because you want them to be patient with you. Live a life worthy of the calling. If you do that – don’t worry that there might be one or two (or more) that don’t like or care for you. Leadership isn’t a popularity contest. If I remember correctly, Jesus had a similar problem, but it didn’t deter Him. ☺
