Looking for Love in all the Wrong Places

Did you hear about the woman who called 911? Before you wonder if this is a joke, it’s really not – this is true stuff. According to reports, Audrey Scott of Ohio called 911 five times! Do you know why she called? She was looking for a husband. That’s right, she called 911 five times looking for a husband. I’m not sure if that classifies as an emergency, but according to the 911 officials it does not! Ms. Scott ended up spending three days in jail because she wanted the police to help her find a husband. Apparently, she’s had a bit too much to drink which helped to foster this unusual string of calls – apparently five times in one hour.

This got me to thinking? People are looking for love in many places. In reality, there are some good places and some not so good place to search. The old song, “Looking for Love” by Johnny Lee came to mind. While an old song, it defines a current day mentality. People are looking for a significant, meaningful, and purposeful relationship with another. So here’s the question. If you’re single and looking for love, where do you go? Now remember, this comes from a guy who will celebrates 25 years of marriage this summer. But, I have some thoughts on the subject.

1. Look to God.

This one is obvious, but needs to be stated. As you seek Him, God provides the desires of your heart in His perfect timing. Don’t be anxious and consequentially settle for less than God’s best because you’re tired of the waiting. Trust God for a spouse.

2. Look where Christians gather.

I’ve typically encouraged single Christians to gather where other single Christians gather. There are certain places you look to discover people who hold a similar value system as you. Don’t settle for less character because you’re tired of waiting. Find and discover where Christian singles are gathering and socializing.

3. Look for compatibility.

View the person you’re interested in as the finished product. Are you satisfied or is there a lot of work that needs to be done to secure an appropriate finished product? You need to be satisfied with the product at hand. The last thing you need to do is take on a rehabilitation, restoration, or building project along with attempting to grow a marriage. Stay away from mercy dating or perceived quick fixer uppers. My experience as a pastor says you’ll be a statistic rather than a success. Know that the “love” you’re supposedly feeling right now will last about eighteen-months (it’s the euphoric chemical imbalance) and it’ll wane as reality sets in after you’ve expended a considerable amount of energy trying to change (fix) him or her. Look for someone who is compatible – meaning on a similar spiritual plain.

4. Look at non-traditional venues.

While calling 911 may be a non-traditional venue through which to seek a mate, it’s probably not the best source for dating helps. I’d suggest trying sites such as eharmony.com and others that spend a significant amount of time sorting through a number of compatibility concerns. I’ve observed positive results from others utilizing these tools.